I write this as he was to us a cherished family elder. He became my father, Sajjad Hyder’s, lifelong friend in the late 1930s when they were gentlemen cadets at the Indian Military Academy in Dehra Dun. His eventful career and accumulation of accolades certainly need no amplification from me. He was born in 1920 in Peshawar and attended Edwardes College there. He was commissioned in 1941 and joined the army’s 1st Bn Rajputana Rifles. He fought and was wounded in World War II, oversaw an operation in North Waziristan on Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah’s instruction and fought in Kashmir in 1948. He served as deputy commander CENTO and as military attaché to Turkey and as Turkey’s honorary consul-general in Peshawar. Among many other postings he commanded the School of Infantry at Quetta and served as the inspector-general of the Frontier Corps. Indeed, his career has been written about in more detail elsewhere. But here, I wish to record my devotion to an endearing and esteemed personage known to me since childhood and to recount the ensuing and enduring friendship between our two families.
When my father was posted in Delhi as High Commissioner between 1968 and 1971, and before the situation deteriorated in early 1971, we were taken by our parents to see the iconic IMA, the scene of many stories featuring my father and his contemporaries Mahmud Jan, Rakhman Gul, and AO Mitha, whose families we are also close to. We could then effortlessly picture these dashing young officers who went on to grace such responsible military and civil positions in Pakistan. How they must have enjoyed the experience of being trained at that elite institution, set in the verdant valley below the Mussoorie mountains! Many were the tales of their interactions with each other and their British fellow officers. And amusing though affectionate were the accounts of the British efforts to attain fluency in Urdu/Hindi.
Uncle Mahmud Jan, and indeed Surraya Khala, would always greet us as extended family; the two ladies got on likewise. Uncle Mahmud Jan was as proud as any of our uncles when my brother Tariq joined the Foreign Service and later became ambassador. And Tariq, having specialised in Military History at Oxford could discuss strategic issues with him. Tariq recalls a time when Uncle Mahmud Jan was defence attaché in Ankara in 1964. Once, Tariq, then at Oxford, took the three-day trip on the Orient Express to Istanbul which led to the lesser known three-day extension to Baghdad where our father was on his first Ambassadorial assignment. After days in economy or ‘hard class’ (as it is called in China) without any dining car, Tariq was received in Ankara enroute by Brig. Mahmud Jan. He hosted Tariq for a day before putting him back on the train, forearmed with two roast chickens prepared by aunty. Tariq remembers Uncle Mahmud Jan quoting Napoleon to him them: “Remember young man, an army marches on its stomach!”
My father also became firm friends in the 1960s with Begum Mahmud Jan’s brother Aslam Khattak when the two were consecutively Ambassadors to Iraq. He always addressed Uncle Aslam as 'Lala'; and Uncle Aslam, on catching sight of any of us siblings, would at once ask, “Where and how is Sajjad?”
When we were in The Netherlands in 1979-80, Uncle Mahmud Jan sent Surayya Khala and Simin, then recently qualified in Hematology, to us for an all-too-brief sojourn. We were delighted, and Simin and I too became firm friends, establishing a second tier in this relationship of two households. And then there were the other times our family came together, such as once, in the dining room of the historic residence in The Hague, at a time when Auntie Surraya really needed cheering up, having just lost her mother. She was supposed to return home via Germany, if memory serves correctly, and she asked my brother Saad, who had studied German, something none of us could understand: why Frankfurt had the suffix 'AM'. The mischievous boy replied, “Auntie, it’s AM in the daytime and PM’ at night!” (It is of course, for Frankfurt am Main).
Once, in Moscow in the mid-late 70s, when my father was Ambassador there, Surraya Khala’s sister Begum Kulsum Saifullah arrived on a visit on an invitatio from the powerful Soviet Women's Committee. We spent several interesting hours in her spellbinding company, and thought her a wonderful representative for Pakistan; by husn-e-ittefaq she returned the compliment in a charming thank-you letter to my parents, a rare feat from any Pakistani dignitary. She also showed her lighter side, by recounting how one of her boys greeted her doubtlessly elegant appearance at Aitchison College as only a young son can, by saying “Ammi! Aap itne long se coat mein kyun ayi haen!”
When we returned to Pakistan in the early 1980s on my parents' retirement to settle in Islamabad, having the Mahmud Jans living close by in Peshawar, and occasionally visiting Hasina in Islamabad, was an added bonus. Once on a visit to Peshawar, we, my uncle and aunt Rafat and Almas Ali Khan (through whom we met Anwar and Jamila Minallah whose niece Amena Kakakhel would marry Saad years later) were invited to dinner at the Mahmud Jans' gracious abode in the Cantonment. It was a fairytale evening, with tiny lights strung in the trees in our honour, and an utterly Central Asian ambience. Uncle Mahmud Jan, indeed, had just such Timurid features! Many anecdotes were exchanged, and when a few compliments were extended towards my father, he cheerfully remarked, “None of this is going to impress Mahmud Jan even a whit!” The dinner was superb, finished off with fragrant green tea gracefully served in delicate Gardner porcelain, all personally supervised by Surraya Khala with the able assistance of Simin and Hasina, who have always called their fond father 'Abba'.
Back in Islamabad my parents became friends with the Mahmud Jans' nephew, the eminent specialist Dr Iqbal Saifullah, who became their cardiologist also. While Tariq, Saad, and I through the Oxbridge network would often interact with Anwar Saifullah, likewise Simin and Hasina's cousin.
It meant much to me that both Simin and uncle came from Peshawar to grace my wedding in 1990; and the moment of their greeting me on stage is treasured in my memory and video alike, as is the closeup of Simin carrying her corner of my mehndi dupatta with my closest friends and cousins.
In the late 1990s, Saad was posted in Peshawar as a certain bank’s branch nanager and, apart from the privilege of looking after his account, he would, with Amena frequently meet Uncle Mahmud Jan and Surraya Aunty. Uncle would inevitably inquire after our father and the rest of the family. Likewise, my parents and we were proud of Simin's professional, and then political success on becoming an MNA. As we expected, it did not change her spontaneity or demeanour in the slightest!
When we lost our father in late 2000, Uncle Mahmud Jan was among those friends who came to sit with our mother for hours, recounting much-needed light memories of him and giving us the strong support of his presence at that heavy time. Surraya Khala came as well, especially to see her old friend and family.
A third layer was added to this familial association, when as children, my son Alp Arslan and the Jans' great-nephews Zahid and Yusuf Ajam became class fellows and friends at Khaldunia School. We were truly touched when these little boys, visiting their khala and khalu Seemie and Ambassador Asif Ezdi in Germany, brought back for Alp a photo of the embassy portrait of his adored and recently lost grandfather.
Simin, Hasina and Salim, Iqbal and Anwar, all attended the duas we would hold for my father and visited us in turn, as did their mother, when our mother passed away in early 2010.
All this year I experienced the strong desire to visit Uncle Mahmud Jan in Peshawar. Recently the inclination had increased in urgency and I would have indeed gone within the year had he stayed.
My lasting image of him is of visiting him in Hasina's flower-filled garden in F-6/3, some time after my father's demise. He looked so happy to see me and he was his active and impeccably elegant self in a grey suit. That is how I imagine him now, by God's grace, surrounded by flowers and friends in paradise.